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Is sex different after you’ve made the relationship official and tied the knot? Nine women spill all.

“My husband Anthony and I wed in 1987. I was 39, and he was 36. By that time, we’d been together for two years, so obviously we were having sex before our wedding day — wild, passionate sex. I so wanted to feel like a virgin so came up with the brilliant idea of not having any sex for one month before our wedding. Our honeymoon arrived, we were in Hawaii and ready to go. Our passion was sooo hot that we both exploded and fell off the bed!” — Martyne

“We’d been living together six years by the time of the wedding so sex was a common and wonderful part of our relationship. But I was looking forward to sex as a married woman. The hotel in Fiji was gorgeous. There was champagne and roses waiting for us. But the jetlag took over and we both fell asleep.” — Sara

“We were each other’s first loves, having met in high school, and taken vows of celibacy. So our wedding night was our first time having sex. It was amazing, we felt so connected and wonderful. It added a whole new dimension to our love. We were glad we waited.” — Tami

“We had in-room massages at the hotel — as a kind of transition to married life. After the masseuse left we had the most breathtaking sex we’d ever experienced in our four years together.” — Rochelle

“Rick had a hangover from the wedding reception and passed out. I cried myself to sleep. We made up for it the next day!” — Ann

“I was two months pregnant so spent the night in the bathroom alternately throwing up and peeing.” — Sheila

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“In the three years we were together pre-wedding, sex was always caring and wonderful. It felt the same on the wedding night — which was something to be celebrated!” — Beth

“Sex was sweet and gentle. What stays with me was cuddling later, holding our hands up in the air, admiring the wedding bands and saying, ‘Hello, husband’ and ‘Hello, wife.'” — Priscilla

“We actually made an effort to relive the first time we’d had sex six years earlier — listening to the same CD, recreating some of the same intimate moves… the first time was wildly exciting, but the first time as a married couple topped it — because it was wildly passionate yet awesomely familiar.” — Pamela

Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW is a New York City-based marriage therapist and author.